My Patient’s Emotional Pain Nudged Me to Heal From My Own

Emotional eating can feel like the answer
Emotional eating can feel like the answer

I caught myself doing it again.

There I was in front of the opened fridge, searching for peace.

It had been the kind of long, frustrating day no commute could erase. Maybe it was the two patients I’d seen whose troubling stories broke my heart. Maybe their struggles with depression and emotional trauma had hit a little too close to home. Now, an unstoppable string of painful memories threaded its way through my mind.

“I thought I dealt with this already. Why am I rehashing this again?” I sighed and closed the fridge.

Nothing in there would fix this ache in my heart. And it certainly wouldn’t stop the rerun of disturbing images through my mind. I’d have to deal another way. Without snapping at people. Without rolling my eyes and sighing at them. Without withdrawing or stuffing my face.

It’s crazy, isn’t it, how things that happened decades ago can trigger negative behavior in the present. Even stuff we’ve dealt with. Forgiven. Accepted and learned from. Or thought we had.

Many coaches say that forgiveness (and, I’d add, dealing with trauma) is like peeling an onion: it has a lot of layers, and each one makes you cry. I’ve certainly found this to be true as I worked through each painful layer of my past.

The weird thing was that I couldn’t force it. I couldn’t hurry up and heal, or race to the next level. Each layer of healing seemed to come when I was ready, and it would always surprise me when it came.

Like this week. I never saw it coming. But suddenly something like a patient’s suffering can stir up a mess of memories I didn’t realize I still needed healing from.

When that happens, my behavior can get weird. I can suddenly find myself in the fridge, or any other number of bad habits I once had, to help me deal with the pain. Overeating (some kind of carb with peanut butter and jam), staring at TV, grumping at my family, and ignoring my friends.

Has that ever happened to you? Has something triggered old painful memories and sent you headlong back into rotten old habits you thought you’d kicked?

It’s not a bad thing.

I mean, we definitely need to find a way to avoid those negative behaviours. But here’s the thing. Once we become aware of what is triggering our behaviour – once we realize the connection between our past experiences and our current behaviour – we can short-circuit the effects of those old wounds.

We don’t have to continue to be hurt by our past.
We don’t have to let past pain hurt our present.

Practically, what this looks like for me (once I recognize what’s triggering my behaviour) is to close that fridge door and walk in the opposite direction of that loaf of bread. I’ll try to find a quiet place to sit down and let the memories come. I will, once again, (again!!) decide to forgive and let it go, just as I had before. Then I’ll fix my mind back on the present – on my current goals – and choose a behaviour that fits with that.

Instead of going to the fridge to feed my feelings, I resolutely choose to engage with my daughter and grandson. We’ll play a game, talk, go outside for a walk, read a book or sit and play with toys – whatever it takes to engage in healthy activities.

We can break free from our past, from hurt. 
But it takes some self-awareness and the willingness to choose a new path, one scary, difficult layer at a time.

How to you shake free from past hurts when they come knocking?

Please comment on this post.  I would love to hear your ideas!
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Wounded Deer Leap Higher

img_0248Some situations in life suck…but we can choose how to frame it and how to feel about it. Ultimately, sh*t that we go through makes us stronger! It may not feel like it while you are in it, but you will later!

This morning, I chose to rise early and do a total body lifting routine to pump up my physical power which leaks over into emotional and spiritual power! My determination is on FIRE this morning as a result of the stress I went through yesterday so I plan to put it to good use today!!

The old saying…”the wounded deer leaps higher..” rings true today!😊👍👍

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Last chance to get in on Health Bet!


Amazing opportunity!
Amazing opportunity!

Seriously? We can commit to getting healthy and be consistent with superfood and exercise over 4 weeks then get paid for it? It’s TRUE!

There isn’t even an entry fee into this one! Normally “diet bets “require $30-$50 bets to be placed before you can be entered, but not this one!! All you need to do is log your workouts (at least 3 per week) and your superfood (at least 5 per week) and you WILL get a portion of the pot! There is NO gambling here and I want you to get in on this!

Seriously all I need to register you in my health bet challenge Group is the email that you have on file with me at Team Beachbody! It’s super simple! 😀😀👍👍

Comment below or email me at gudmund@mymts.net to let me know you want in! 😊

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To be Convicted is a good thing?

Today was a challenge to get my butt moving out of bed and down to the basement for a power lifting session…😳 …but I got it done! 👍

What really helps to keep me going is the fact that I made a true decision to get fit, healthy, feel good, and to sculpt a body that I can feel good about in anything I wear. I was tired of muffin top, and fat bulging out over my bra strap, and feeling self conscious which made it hard for me to feel good in jeans and many other clothes!! Yuck!

The kind of decision I am talking about here is not just a “I wish”, or “I hope” kind of decision…this is a decision that is made with the kind of conviction that makes the other choices NOT an option…the kind of decision where you are in 100%, and NOT 99%.

The kind of decisions that are made with conviction and deep determination are those decisions that lead us to our goals. The 100% way means that there is no being on the fence, no waffling, no deciding whether or not to have that donut out of that box that someone brought into the office…it just makes it easier to be 100% into the decision and to stick to the plan. Learning to make these kind of decisions can change your life! This certainly has changed mine! 😊

True decision-making gives you incredible personal power and it feels great! 😊

Fitness and health is only one area, but we can use this kind of decision making in other areas of our life too…I am going to make more decisions today…I have decided! LOL 😊

Comment below with a decision that you have made with conviction and are 100% in on…I would love to hear about it 😊

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Be fearless!

Be fearless on this Terrific Tuesday
Be fearless on this Terrific Tuesday

Good morning on this beautiful Tuesday morning ! 😊

What isn’t there to enjoy with the sun shining and a happy baby 😊💕

The message today is to be fearless!… Fear is nothing more then an obstacle that stands in the way of progress. In overcoming our fears, we can move forward stronger and wiser within ourselves.

Have a terrific Tuesday and be fearless In the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire!

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Don’t wait…Do it NOW!

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OK… It is time to get rid of procrastination in your life!

My mentor Darren Hardy got this message to me loud and clear this morning. In our lives, procrastination truly is the the death of success in many areas of our life.

Think about this… If there was a priority within your family, when would you deal with it?… Right now! If you had an employee who is committing fraud at work, when do you fire them?… Right now!
If you start to feel you were having a heart attack, when would you deal with this?… Right now!

So why is it that working at preventing a heart attack, working on yourself to become a better and stronger person, more work at growing your business and having the best team… tends to be something that we procrastinate about.… It seems easier just to ignore it …until we are faced with an “urgent” situation!

So… Don’t wait until you have a heart attack, don’t wait until you are totally robbed blind by a fraudulent employee, don’t wait until your entire team is poisoned by a bad situation before doing something about it, deal with things NOW!

Just how many “tomorrows” or “next weeks” are there going to be? If you want to start a business to improve your life and develop a legacy for your family, get going on it! If you want to improve your health, energy, and outlook on life, then DO IT! If you would like to get your home and life more organized, then just do it! Getting tired of being treated without respect at work? Come up with a solution and deal with it!

Procrastination doesn’t do anyone any good! The clear learning point I got from Darren Hardy today is…DO IT NOW! 😊

This message this morning got me totally fired up to improve on myself, in fact there are several things I now realize I have been procrastinating about!   …and I am now sharing the message with you 😊

#justdoit #killprocrastination #pushyourself #dosomethingthatscaresyoueveryday #AthleticGrandma #FitnessGal1969